Sunday, June 13, 2010

One more reason to Divorce

Now many or any reason is good enough for divorce. but then when someone decides to divorce- do they really need a reason!?

Marriages are no longer made in heaven, nor are they ‘Fevicol ki jodis’. Our society and socio-political structures have changed. Relationships are no longer defined by love or commitment alone. They have Unique Identification Criteria of their own; therefore, I shall desist from making blanket statements on what makes for a good/bad relationship or marriage.

Our parents of course can’t even identify with the terms ‘good’ and ‘bad’ in the same breath as ‘marriage’. A marriage, they say, is a bond, not just between two individuals, but between their ‘aatmas’ according to the Sanskrit slokas that we’re expected to repeat after the pundit as we sweat and cramp before the ‘homagni’. So, how can something that God proposes and parents arrange be bad? After all, marriages are still arranged based on astrology, caste, creed, religion, gotras, looks, colour of skin and blood, as well as culinary, housekeeping, and pampering skills, the kind of job you hold and your bank balance, amongst a laundry list of other criteria.

Sadly though, none of the above proves good enough for a marriage to last forever.

Most marriages these days are either a compromise or an abscess that you nurse till it splits open and oozes pus. And that’s when it gets really messy these days. There are theories and conspiracy theories about why marriages don’t work. The most common one being ‘stress’— professional stress, stress at home because the maid didn’t turn up and the ‘man of the house’ won’t lift a finger to help, parenting stress—just name it and it’s stressful. Look at what it did to the supposedly perfect marriage of Al and Tipper Gore, even after 40 years of togetherness. And stress is often the easiest excuse to slip up on commitment leading to emotional infidelity, sometimes even the physical kind and for stoking the killer instinct in you. So, the two supposedly mature adults scream, shout, yell, fight, and hurt each other till they decide they’ve had enough and should now part ways, amicably or otherwise.

When things don’t work, we call it a ‘breakdown’, right? And we need a mechanic to either repair it or tow it away, if it can’t be fixed. That’s where the Indian divorce laws come handy. http://www.indlaw.com/display.aspx?2739

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1 comment:

Chandrika Shubham said...

One must try his or her best to repair.